Most of us have probably went through a bit of drama in high school -yes, even if you weren't problematic at all, they found a way to involve you in it-.
And when I say high school drama I don't only mean the one that happens inside the school building, but also drama that escalates to the point it starts spreading on social media, principally Instagram and TikTok. You've probably seen a few post or vids of conflicts of that kind (even from schools you don't go to, that's how much it can spread online)
Perhaps you're also going through some drama right now... The point is, everyone has a bit of conflict at some point in school. And while in the moment it may seem like hell, in the end none of it matters.
You see, high schools are probably the most toxic environment you can be in as a teenager. Everyone loves to talk shit about each other (including people you considered your friends) but it's expected to happen considering your brain isn't entirely developed yet as a teen and you aren't aware of the consequences doing that kind of stuff can have.
If this is your case, I have some advice for you:
If you are the one who tends to start drama: quit it. Whether it is for fun or because you're resented with someone, it's not ok to start crap. It only makes you look like the asshat, specially if you're attacking people with fake stuff (which is straight up defamation!) or just insulting or criticizing others with no actual reason. That's low and cowardly, and you will probably regret it when you grow up and finally know what's ok and what's not. Try to think about how far it could go. It can get out of hand very quickly, and it will backfire.
If you tend to get involved in drama voluntarily: DON'T!! Usually it tends to escalate and it will certainly turn out negatively for you. Nothing good can come out from that!
Also: you don't know what kind of people will end up involved in it. It could also escalate to threats or even physical violence, and that's no fun. Stay away from conflict and everything will be peaceful.
If you tend to get involved in drama involuntarily (for example: someone accuses you of something): try to stay away from it all, as long as possible. As I said before, nothing good comes from any of it. If you do need to get involved: always defend yourself, don't escalate the situation or attack others unnecessarily. Respond with real stuff (don't resort to lying, that will only make you look bad) and if possible add proof when defending yourself of accusations.
But overall, remember that school drama is pointless. Think about it: most of the reasons kids start drama are just petty stuff. Unless it's an actual problematic reason it's just not worth it to start shit.
And even in that case, if you do need to bring someone's problematic actions to light, do it respectfully. Don't go around insulting people or being violent. If you do it respectfully you'll be the bigger person in the situation. Don't lower yourself to their levels.
Remember: the petty and pointless high school drama won't even matter in a few years. I mean, it probably won't even matter in a few months. That's how quick people care (or pretend to care) about that kind of stuff. Not much people at my school remember drama that happened last month.
Stick to the people that matter and those who actually care about you! Value your teenage years and don't waste them fighting about stuff that you won't even care about in a few years.
Hope my advice is useful, love y'all!
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